8 Tips for Picking Your First Vibrator
Getting your first vibrator is a big deal but it can also be a big decision. There are so many different choices and sensations that it can be a challenge to figure out which is the right one for you.
Because of that, many women get overwhelmed and end up going home (or ordering) nothing because they have no idea what they want and no one to help them out. And don’t get us started on asking for advice—just the thought can be intimidating.
If you’re considering buying your first vibrator and have no idea where to start, we’ve built this handly little guide for you:
8 Tips For Picking Out Your First Vibrator
Start Small and Pretty
If you didn’t know this already let me be the first to say, you do not have to go with a vibrator that looks like a penis. When it comes to your first vibrator, the idea of “go big or go home” is not the right mindset.
If that’s what you’re into then go for it, but many first time users are more comfortable with something that looks less dick-shaped and more aesthetically pleasing. You want to make sure that your first vibrator is one that you’re going to actually use.
Pipedream Basics Rocket Bullet Vibe
Decide on a Budget
You do not have to spend a ton to get the a good first vibrator. There are plenty of budget options out there. If you’ve never used a vibrator before there will be some trial-and-error involved.
Unless you know exactly what you want and it happens to carry a bigger price, there’s nothing wrong with starting out budget-friendly. Something like the Pipedream Rocket Bullet makes for a great first vibrator because it’s small, un-intimidating and won’t break the bank.
CalExotics Butterfly Kiss Vibrator
Remember You Can Always Buy Another
Lots of first-time vibrator purchasers stress themselves out looking for the perfect vibrator. But finding the best option for you takes some time and, honestly, there’s always something bigger and better right around the corner.
Your first vibrator is not meant to last a lifetime and you’re not entering a committed relationship, you’re simply finding your first one. There are plenty of different styles and sensations to choose from, you can always add to your collection.
Satisfyer Curvy 2+ Air Pulse Stimulator
Decide on Desired Sensation
Not all vibrators deliver the same sensation and overall experience. Some are built for penetration, others stay on the outside and some even create a sucking function more in-line with cunnilingus (vaginal oral sex). So, when it comes to picking out your first vibrator, you want to decide what sensation you’re going for.
The best way to do this is to masturbate so you can figure out what kind of play actually gets you off, what position you like to be in and whether or not you need any flexibility. The answers to all of these questions will help inform you about what you’re looking for.
How Discreet Should It Be?
Discretion is an important factor when it comes to picking out your first vibrator. If you live alone and don’t often get unsolicited visitors, this will probably be less of an issue. But if you don’t have a ton of privacy at home there are two things you’ll want to consider: noise and aestetics.
Some vibrators can be quite loud, especially if they’re pretty heavy-duty. But there are some made with noise levels in mind. The We-Vibe Moxie is whisper-quiet, so even if the walls are thin and your roommate is right next door, no one will hear.
Vibrators can also look intimidating, depending on your comfort level. But if you’re worried about someone coming across it, then you’ll want to go with something with a discreet shape and size, like the Nü Petite Egg.
Satisfyer Multifun 2 Couples Vibe
Solo Or With a Friend
Vibrators, like many sex toys, can be used solo or with a partner. But there are a few that are made specifically with pairs in mind. Not all partner toys are made the same, for example, the Satisfyer Multifun 2 is made with a heterosexual pair (one penis, one vagina) in mind. But of you and your partner both have vaginas, a vibrating double-penetrating dildo might be a better pick.
It’s important to mention that partner vibes can be a bit tricky for first-time users, so many go with a traditional vibrator and graduate from there. There’s no reason why you can’t add more to your collection later.
Don’t Forget the Lube
When you’re out at the store (or at home on your computer) picking out your first vibrator, don’t forget to add some lube to your cart. While the vagina does create it’s own natural lubricant, it’s safest, and usually most comfortable, adding some lube to the mix—especially if you’re just getting started.
Most experts recommend water-based lube, like System Jo, as the safest option because it’s least-likely to interfere with the material of your toy. You can also check with the manufacturer as they typically have a recommended type of lubricant to use. Regardless of what you go with, make sure to spot test with the toy before you get started.
Doc Johnson Natural Toy Cleaner
Consider Cleaning and Care
Vibrators, like all other sex toys, need to be cared for properly. That means getting educated about how to clean and store them. You don’t want to be playing with a toy that’s hasn’t been properly cleaned, beyond simply being gross, you risk getting germs that shouldn’t be there inside your vagina.
Your best bet is to use a proper toy cleaning solution. We like Doc Johnson’s Natural Toy Cleaner because it’s free of Triclosan, parabens, sulfates or colorants. You also might want to consider storing them in a toy bag, especially if you plan on carting it to a partner’s house with you and want to be discreet.
Finding the Best Advice
Not all places that sell sex toys are the same—they’re not all dark, seedy-feeling environments with some creepy guy you’re afraid to approach behind the counter (though, unfortunately, those still exist). There are plenty of places, both online and off, where you can find knowledgeable experts that can help you find the best product for you.
It should also go without saying that, while men can be great at many-a things, it’s best not to take advice from someone without a vagina about what to use on (or in) yours. There are different vibrators that provide different experiences and this is simply not an area where men have the knowledge and expertise, even if they’re well-studied.
Finally, not all vibrators are the same and you really only want a quality product in and around your vagina. So, make sure to chat with someone who can tell the difference between the two. Honestly, that’s not everyone’s game.
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